Don’t Tell Your Big Dreams to Small Minds
By Ife Thomas
In my journey through personal development, a common theme I’ve encountered in conversations is the feeling of being unsupported. It’s not uncommon for people to feel that those in their community, family, or company are living in a scarcity mindset, unable to see the larger picture.
At 19, I delved into the world of personal development. I was hooked from the first book I read, and since then, I’ve been on a relentless quest for knowledge through books, seminars, and courses. However, this journey often led me to contradictory advice, leaving me wondering, “What’s the right approach?”
On one hand, I learned the importance of dreaming big and sharing those dreams to hold myself accountable. The moment you voice your dreams, they transition from wishes to tangible goals. But then, I also realised the downside – not everyone can handle the magnitude of big dreams. Sometimes, sharing them with the wrong people leads to discouragement rather than support.
So, how do we navigate this tricky terrain of personal development with its conflicting advice? Here’s my take: it’s all about the ‘why.’ Why are you sharing your big dream? If it’s for accountability, go ahead and share. Your focus is on your path, not others’ opinions. But if you seek encouragement, be selective. Share your dreams with those who match your mindset and enthusiasm.
Many people, despite their good intentions, have limited perspectives. They might dissuade you, citing risks and past failures, not out of malice, but from their own fears and insecurities. This can distract and derail you from your path to success.
Personal development is a unique journey for each of us. We must learn to sieve through the information, absorb what resonates, and apply it in a way that aligns with our individual goals and circumstances.
In the end, remember this: Not everyone can grasp the scale of your dreams, and that’s okay. The key is to identify those who do, those who fuel your drive rather than dampen your spirit.
Dream big, but share wisely – your future self will thank you for it.
