Advocating for Your Child at School.

As a parent, it’s your right and responsibility to ensure your child receives the support they need at school especially when it’s required by law.

Start by valuing your child like the CEO of their own life. Sit down with them and gently ask if they’ve been feeling sad. If they say yes, ask why. Then, be a detective, carefully gathering their thoughts and feelings, and explain that you’re doing this to make their school experience easier.

The Power of Advocacy:

“If it’s about me, it’s with me.” Bring your child to every meeting with the SENCO (Special Educational Needs Coordinator) after all, it’s about them.

Let them be part of the conversation, as empowering them with self-advocacy is one of the greatest gifts you can give.

They need to feel included and see that they have a voice in the decisions that impact their education.

Standing Your Ground

Sometimes schools will say no, but stand firm. Insist that your child is present this is not a secret; it’s about open communication. Don’t let anyone treat your child’s needs like an afterthought. Children deserve to feel involved and part of the decision-making process in their own lives.

Understand Your Child’s Experience

Before going to meetings, take the time to understand how your child is feeling. The SENCO may have their own agenda they’re working for the school, not always for your child. 
If your child has been undiagnosed or facing struggles without the proper support, the SENCO may not be as proactive. It’s up to you to advocate for your child’s needs.

Be Clear About Your Vision
Think about what you want from the meeting, and be clear with the SENCO about your vision for your child. What are their goals and aspirations? You are their most important advocate, and you want to make sure they reach their full potential.

I always tell the school: “It’s my duty to make sure my child becomes everything they’re capable of. They’ll be at school for the next 6 years, but I’ll be their parent for life. That’s why I’m willing to work with you together, we’ll make school a positive place for my child. I hope one day, I can tell other parents how wonderful this school has been for them!”

Be Firm, Be Fair

This approach shows that you won’t accept anything less than the most appropriate support for your child, but it also demonstrates that you are reasonable and approachable a loving parent who’s committed to your child’s well-being. Stand firm, but remain human.

The Bottom Line
Your child’s needs matter.
You are their voice, and you have the power to make sure they are heard, respected, and supported in school. Always keep the bigger picture in mind, and work together with the school to create an environment where your child can thrive.