Kindness starts with YOU
By Ife Thomas
Hold on, wait a minute—ever wondered why telling yourself off never seems to make things better?
People often ask me, “How do you stay so confident?”
I used to be my own harshest critic, thinking if I was hard on myself, I’d somehow shape up and improve.
We’ve been conditioned to think that criticism leads to change because, let’s face it, many of us were raised on the principle that to correct behavior, one must first highlight the fault, often harshly.
The next time you catch yourself with a negative thought or putting yourself down, pause and ask, “Is this really helping?”
Confidence grows in the light of self-compassion, not in the shadows of self-critique.
Speak to yourself like someone you love. Because the truth is, you are with yourself all the time.
People often ask me, “How do you stay so confident?”
I used to be my own harshest critic, thinking if I was hard on myself, I’d somehow shape up and improve.
We’ve been conditioned to think that criticism leads to change because, let’s face it, many of us were raised on the principle that to correct behavior, one must first highlight the fault, often harshly.
The next time you catch yourself with a negative thought or putting yourself down, pause and ask, “Is this really helping?”
Confidence grows in the light of self-compassion, not in the shadows of self-critique.
Speak to yourself like someone you love. Because the truth is, you are with yourself all the time.
