Why don’t people take responsibility for their mistakes?

I don’t think it’s always avoidance.

I think it’s a language thing.

Most people were never taught what to say, how to say it, or in what sequence to say it.
Communication isn’t something you just pick up it’s a skill you can learn.

Taking responsibility requires us to feel uncomfortable, to talk through our thoughts, and to find words for feelings that were never fully formed.

If you’re not sure what you think, or why you think that way – you’ll struggle to express it in a way that’s receivable.

That’s where deep thinking comes in.
But deep thinking doesn’t happen in isolation.

It requires two things:
Deep listening, someone who hears you without judgement. Time and the space to connect the dots between your thoughts, your past, and your patterns.

That’s why therapy, coaching, and conversation matter. Not because someone gives you answers, but because they ask questions that help your mind render.

You see, the brain is like a processor.
It needs time, space, and silence to translate emotion into language, to convert experience into understanding.

And that’s what deep thinking is.
It’s the process of your brain rendering your truth.

Mindfulness is known for calming your mind,
but it’s also about allowing your mind to speak.

That inner voice, when you slow down enough to hear it, is your mind’s way of connecting the dots you’ve been avoiding.
Psychologists call this metacognition, thinking about your thinking.
It’s the birthplace of self-awareness.
And self-awareness is where responsibility begins.

So this Sunday, the day once known for rest, find a moment to pause. Have a conversation that makes you think. Or simply sit and listen to what rises to the surface.

Because the thoughts you avoid are often the ones that hold your freedom.